IC Inbox - Deer Country

[hammerbearer]

You know what to do here.

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[opheliac]

its just stupid family stuff.
or ex family.
idk. im thinking about maybe calling it quits and removing myself out of her life.

[hammerbearer]

Ex-family? I'd say if you're not sure, it's something to think on.

You want to tell me more about it? I can't say there's much to go on here. You don't have to mention names or anything.

[opheliac]

its a long story.

( but right now, she feels she has no one to talk to. well, there's chizuru and nara'a. but... she doesn't want to cause even more trouble. )

my sis and i use to get along but we dont anymore.
we've both changed into diff ppl. i grew up, she grew up. took diff paths and shit.
at first she didnt like who i became. prob still doesnt deep down.
but seeing we're here and not home, she thought maybe we can start over.
so
we're trying that.
but.
we've been arguing a lot. WAY lot.

she and i just got into another fight and she sounded... TIRED of me. u know?
my ( ... ) dad (not her dad tho) warned me this would happen if we tried to be sisters again. she would learn im not the baby sis from years ago and she would drop me or get tired of me.

so idk. i should prob just. stop communicating w/ her and just let her live her life. she was prob fine before i washed up in trench. shes well known here, ppl like her a lot, she has a lot of friends, ppl trust her.

and here i am. messing it all up for her and causing problems.

[hammerbearer]

Your dad sounds like an idiot.

[ Gaia can be blunt. ]

That's the type of thing I'd say to someone if I want them to fail. Not that I would.

What did you fight over exactly? What kind of person is your sister? What kind are you?

[opheliac]

URE AN IDIOT!!! my old man is the smartest guy i know!!!!

AND FOR UR INFO, my sis LOVES to keep secrets and thats what we had an argument about.

[hammerbearer]

[ Oh snap a landmine. ]

Fine, he's not an idiot. I'm sorry I called him one. But that's still a horrible thing to say to you when you want to try. Whether or not he ends up being right is beside the point.

Everyone has secrets they keep. What kind of secret was it? Were you angry because it's something that made you worried when you found out about it or is it just because she won't tell you everything?

[opheliac]

a secret where this other person being here in trench could idk kill me maybe? idk what this guy is capable of but i should PROB know hes HERE so i can defend myself and not some surprise attack?

but no. she pretend he was just some guy from our city when he is actually an enemy.

[hammerbearer]

That sounds like something you should know. I'd be hurt too.

Did he... try to attack you? Or threaten you?

[opheliac]

so far no.

I think I accidentally replied to myself on this one. c.c;

[hammerbearer]

I... guess she could have thought she was trying to keep the peace. Still that seems to be something at the very least you should give warning about.

I know there's probably a few people from where I came from that I'd be very cross about learning people kept their presence here from me.

Have you talked to him yourself yet? The person, I mean. To find out what he wants to do here in Trench?

[opheliac]

yeah. we've talked. cant rly tell u what we talked about tho.
home stuff. u know how it is.

[hammerbearer]

Of course.

About your sister though. Do you think she's trying to make you how you used to be? Or is she treating you like she expects you to be how you were a long time ago?

[opheliac]

i dont think so. not that i can tell??
she is calling me by the name i want to be called and not the other one.
so thats an improvement.
and i AM rly GLAD for that!! im prob not showing it. enough. but i rly am happy she is trying and i rly do love her.

just.
idk. we think so diff. and we believe on diff things. its rly hard.

[hammerbearer]

[ Gaia continues to bravely tackle the context of internet lingo! Fortunately this is the easy stuff. ]

I'm glad to hear she's trying. Truly. I know what happens when someone tries to force you to be something without acknowledging what you might want. Or that you should have a say in your own life.

I sometimes struggle to show how grateful I am for my friends as well. If you're worried you're not showing it enough, then maybe you should just tell her. Perhaps write a letter or make a video with your omni saying what you're thankful for? And just focus on the positive parts.

Sometimes relationships are like that. My best friend and I are very different. We have very different tastes and attitudes. But it's nice to explore things we might have in common.

I know you might not be able to be with your sister as much as you both might like because of the different views. It can be hard. But maybe you can concentrate on the things you can do together and go from there. Even if they are new for both of you.

[opheliac]

i guess i could. write her a letter. but i also think its just better if i disappear from her too.

or maybe until i get this jinxing out of control. or when shes better from being corrupted. it looks like im pushing her further into it.

ill let her friends help her bring her back to herself.

[hammerbearer]

Wait a moment. If she's showing signs of corruption, I don't think disappearing from her life is going to help either. Even if it seems it might. Does she visit the Sanctuary? They help with things like that.

Also what do you mean by 'jinxing out of control'?

[opheliac]

so what do i do? leaving makes it worse according to u but me staying around her is pushing her more to it.

i told her to go see princess sansa. shes all about helping and coddling ppl like babies.

jinxing as in fucking up.

[hammerbearer]

Sansa works at the Sanctuary. I'm sure she'll help your sister if she can.

I admit I don't know the whole story or anything about your sister other than what you've told me. Maybe if you had a third person sit down with you both and figure out what you can do to help one another?

Someone that isn't seen as an ally to you or your sister. A neutral party.

Also I don't know what you consider coddling. But maybe doing something that's hard to er... jinx. Does your sister have a favorite food? Maybe you can deliver it to her one day for lunch.

[opheliac]

she likes my crawmeat salad sandwiches.

[hammerbearer]

[ Even better, homemade! Whatever crawmeat is. ]

Why not try to make that? Wait, is crawmeat even a thing in Trench? Maybe something like it if it's not.

Anyway, write down how much you care and hope she gets better. And from the sound of it, it sounds like even with your differences, she's still your sister that you love. So maybe you can write about that? Avoid anything that sounds angry.

And remember, if she's suffering from corruption, it's probably only making the parts she's been frustrated about seem worse to her. I know it might hurt to hear her being angry at you. And I'm not saying she should be excused for saying hurtful things. But she might also be under an influence that's blowing it out of proportion.

Gods, I don't even know if I'm giving the right advice here. So feel free to take what you want from it.

[opheliac]

no no. this is. this is good.
i never thought about. u know. writing her a letter and give her smth she likes.
and yea. the crabmeat thing is a trench thing. my sis killed a lot of crabs when the beach was crawling w/ them.

u know. thinking about this... i dont think ive given her a present at all. she gave me a ring and bloodstones.
i should... give her a gift too.

[hammerbearer]

[ OH, craBmeat. Not craWmeat. Texting typo maybe? ]

Oh, I see!

I'm sure a gift would be nice. Though I'd probably start with the lunch first. Maybe material things later.

But not too much. Some people react badly when you shower them with gifts like you're trying to make up for something. Or buy their affection.

But if the gift is meaningful, don't hesitate! I think you'll do fine either way.

[opheliac]

( yes. let's pretend jinx typo'd and not at all the player's typo. nope. it was her, not me. )

oh. hm.
i see ur point.
okay so. how about a letter and just food for now?
thats a good start?

[hammerbearer]

[ I'm in such awe of your clever characterization typos! Which it clearly was. And not me thinking it was just a random LoL lore thing I didn't know re: whatever a craw is. ]

I think that's a great start.

And... I know we're strangers and just started talking by chance, but I'd certainly be interested in knowing how it goes. So feel free to reach out to me again.

My name is Gaia by the way. Like the username.

[ She had kept her id simple. ]

[opheliac]

my name is jinx. and yea sure. ill let u know. thnx for the advice. and.
stuff.

im not rly use to idk. ppl talking w/ me and its not about killing me ha ha ha!